An Open Letter to My Dad: Into the Light

by Tammy Strobel on June 11, 2012

{Note: This letter was inspired by a column at McSweeney’s.}

Mahlon,

When the house phone rang at 12.38 a.m., I jumped up and my heart was racing. I knew what the call was going to be about and I heard mom ask, “Already? So fast?”

Leslie, the nurse, told us that your vitals were falling and that we should come to the hospital immediately. Mom could hear Leslie’s voice quiver and my legs shook as I got out of bed.

I don’t know what time we got to the hospital, but we talked to the doctor and nurses and they said it was your time. They made sure you were comfortable and we sat with you for a few hours. We held your hand, talked to you, and gave you so many kisses. I told you that I’d take care of mom and that you were the best dad I could ever ask for.

Taking care of you, during your illness, was a gift and holding your hand as you took your last breath at 3.29 a.m. on Sunday, June 10 was a gift too.

You are loved, you will be missed, and I know you’ve walked into the light.

I love you,
Tammy

1 Monica McCarthy June 11, 2012

Wow, Tammy. My heart goes out to you and your family. Wishing you well during this day and everyday.

2 Shawna Cevraini June 11, 2012

Tammy, I am sorry for your loss. I am thankful that you got the chance to be with him. I understand what it means to hold their hand at the end…I was blessed to be with my Gramma last summer when she “walked into the light”. What a beautiful thought. I just wanted you to know that I’m thinking of you and your family right now.

3 Sam June 11, 2012

*hug*

That’s all there really is to do.

4 tammy June 11, 2012

oh tammy.
my heart to your heart. and your dear mom.
love,
tammy j

5 Anonymous June 11, 2012

I’m so sorry for your loss. Internet *hug* to you and your family during this time.

6 Jackie Ireland June 11, 2012

Take care.
Sending Love and Light to you and your family.
Jackie

7 Jen neitzel June 11, 2012

Tammy, I just saw this. I lost my dad this year too. I wasn’t nearly as close to him as you were to yours and it still took me about a week of solid crying to even be able to function. In the last few years I’ve known too much death: 2 friends, father and my grandfather (who was more of a father to me). This has been the quote that helped me the most: “What we once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, For all that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” ― Helen Keller

Let me know if I can do anything. Much love to you Tammy and I’m so sorry for your loss! xoxo

8 eva June 11, 2012

Tammy,

Thank you for sharing with your readers. It sounds like he was a great guy, and you are a great daughter, and your family is lucky and special in ways I feel privileged to have learned about.

Thank you.

9 Rachel June 11, 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. My you and your family know peace during this difficult time. My thoughts are with you and your loved ones.

10 Pat June 11, 2012

Tammy,
May the love of your online community bring you and your family comfort and peace during this time.
Pat

11 D June 11, 2012

Oh Tammy, I am so sorry for your loss. The fact that you were able to be with him until the moment he passed on is an absolute gift. You and your family are in my thoughts.

12 Chelsea June 11, 2012

Tammy,
You and your family are in my thoughts and heart at this transition. Thank you for sharing your story and living life with such passion and caring.

13 Tyler Tervooren June 11, 2012

Oh Tammy, I’m so sorry. That’s all I’ve got.

14 Brittany June 11, 2012

Oh, I am so, so sorry to hear about your loss. I’m glad you and your mom had such a good life with him and he will live on in your memories!

15 Karen Miller June 11, 2012

Dear Tammy,
I’m so sorry for your loss. When my mother died I saw her in the leaves flying up to the sky. Grief is such a journey. I send you my thoughts for that travel. Karen

16 Shadlyn Wolfe June 11, 2012

I am so sorry to hear that, but I am very glad that you were able to be with him at the end. It’s not much, but my thoughts are with you.

17 acarback June 11, 2012

I’m so sorry. *hugs*

18 April June 11, 2012

Oh no, Tammy, I’m so sorry. You and your mom, your whole family actually, are in my thoughts and prayers. I’ve been following along with your posts as your dad got sick. Your love for him is evident.

19 Katy @ The Non-Consumer Advocate June 11, 2012

Oh Tammy, I am so sorry to hear this. You are in my heart and thoughts.

Katy

20 Teri Kojetin June 11, 2012

Tammy,

My deepest condolences to you and your family. What a blessing you could be with your dad at the end. Prayers and love go out to you all.

Doug & Teri

21 Erin June 11, 2012

Tammy, I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your Mom. Thank you for sharing your life with all of us.

22 Caroline McGraw / A Wish Come Clear June 11, 2012

Oh Tammy – my heart goes out to you and your Mom in this time of grief. What’s so powerful about this letter is that, even in the face of great loss, you offer hope and illumination. Your time together was a gift not only to one another, but to everyone who reads about it as well.

Your letter is beautiful, and I bet Mahlon is so proud of you.
Thoughts and prayers,
Caroline

23 Debby Shockley June 11, 2012

Tammy my friend. I am so sorry for the loss you and your mother are sharing. And I am so happy you had your Dad in your life. The 3 of you were truly a blessing to the planet. Take care my friend and know that my thoughts are with all 3 of you. (Logan too)

24 Gail June 11, 2012

Big hug

25 Linda June 11, 2012

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

26 Amanda Bretz June 11, 2012

Tammy,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours right now.
I know what a special relationship you had with your dad and I am sorry for your loss, but I know he is in a better place, free from pain and sickness.
I lost my dad at the end of March after he battled with health problems. What has helped me cope is remembering the good times we shared, remembering my dad when he was healthy and well and knowing he is no longer suffering and now, I have a special guardian angel who will always be there to guide me and watch over me.
I know your dad will always be with you and your mom, watching over you both and taking care of you.

God bless,

Amanda

27 Stacy @ Stacyverb June 11, 2012

So sorry to read this news. Wishing you strength during this difficult time.

28 Michael June 11, 2012

I’m sorry for your loss, Tammy, but so glad you had that precious time with him during his transition. He will live on stronger in your heart because of that. Sending you a virtual hug.

29 Margot June 11, 2012

Tammy I am so sorry to read of your dad’s passing. Condolences to you and your family.

30 Cynthia June 11, 2012

My condolences and hugs :(

31 Diane June 11, 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

32 Colleen June 11, 2012

what a beautiful tribute to a wonderful man who blessed your life in many ways (and you his). I’m sorry for your family’s loss and you are in my heart & thoughts today.

33 Chessa June 11, 2012

Tammy – *hugs.* <3 My heart goes out to you and your mom.

34 Katie June 11, 2012

Tammy – I’m sorry to hear about Mahlon. I hope you and your family give yourselves time and space to grieve his loss. From the way you wrote about him, he seemed like a wonderful man. Hugs to you and your family.

35 Maria June 11, 2012

Today I went to my best friends daughters dads funeral. It’s hard for children, no matter what age, when they loose their parents. He had five, four grown ups and one just eleven years old. My thoughts are with everyone that just lost their parent and especially you and them today Tammy!

36 SKM June 11, 2012

My heart hurts for your loss. What a lucky man to have you. You will take care of your mom and will make him proud. In the meantime, be kind to yourself.

37 Tami June 11, 2012

I am sending good thought and lots of positive energy to you and your family, Tammy. Having endured one of those early morning calls myself when my mom died, I know how surreal life becomes for a while. Know that you have many supporters out there who lift you up in love. Take comfort in knowing you said and did all the important things when it mattered the most. Peace.

38 Jaye Bayfield June 11, 2012

My condolences to you and your family. How blessed you all were to have such lovely people in your lives.

39 Becki June 11, 2012

Tammy,

I am so very sorry to hear of Mahlon. I know you love him very much. My thoughts and prayers go out to you, your Mom and all of those who held him near and dear. Take good care of yourself and of your Mom.

40 Sandy June 11, 2012

I am so terribly sorry.

41 Frank Martin | Modern Monkey Mind June 11, 2012

Tammy, I was blown away reading this. I am so sorry for your loss. We’ve never met in real life but reading RK over the past year or so I feel like I’ve come to know you anyway, and I know how much your dad meant to you. Take care of yourself my friend, and know that my thoughts and prayers are with all three of you.

42 Erin Wilson June 11, 2012

One more here who is so sorry for your loss.
Thank you for teaching us how to love well when it’s so very hard.
Peace to you and your family…

43 Kristin Noelle June 11, 2012

Sending so much love.

44 Michael June 11, 2012

Words alone can not express the sadness I feel at your loss. Carry what he has taught you and share it with others.

45 Lisa June 11, 2012

My thoughts with your family. Im glad you were able to be there at the end. That phone call in the middle of the night is never a good thing. I got a wrong number called one night, it took me hours to go back to sleep.

46 Karen June 11, 2012

Hugs and love and prayers for you and your brave, loving family.

47 Meagan June 11, 2012

Tammy and family,

Words cannot express how sorry I am to hear about your dad. I wish you and your family peace in this difficult time.

XO

48 Andy June 11, 2012

Tammy,
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Thank you for sharing your love for your dad with all of us that read your blog. Having lost my dad to a stroke seventeen years ago last week i just wanted to say the loss does soften with time but the love stays forever strong.

49 Alannah June 11, 2012

I’m so sorry. Sending you and your family warm thoughts and good energy. XO

50 Stacey June 11, 2012

I’m so sorry, Tammy! Lots of hugs to you and your family.

51 Kriston June 11, 2012

We love you

52 The Frugal Ecologist June 11, 2012

So sorry to hear about your loss, though it is a gift to be with our loved ones at the end. what a beautiful tribute to your Dad. My thoughts are with you and yours.

53 Kris June 11, 2012

And may you smile every time you think of him.

…joining palms

54 Sandra / Always Well Within June 11, 2012

Tammy,

My prayers are with you and your family. May all the love you have for your father continue to blossom and radiate from your heart to all that you touch.

55 minky June 11, 2012

Tammy, I am so sorry to read about your dear beautiful dad passing. Sending you giant hugs and prayers during this tough time.

56 Patty Peterson June 11, 2012

Oh, Tammy… oh… Tammy.

I’m so sorry. But I am so glad you were there. Blessings to you and your family.

57 Consuelo June 11, 2012

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your father. Warm and healing thoughts for you and your family as you face the difficult weeks ahead.
Sincerely,
Consuelo Villalba

58 Denise June 11, 2012

Sending love and prayers and hugs. You are blessed as are those who know you.

59 Rose Byrd June 11, 2012

Tammy, my heart goes out to you and your mom and other family members on the loss of Mahlon yesterday! I am so pleased you could be with him and hold his hand at the end. The photos you share here are very special and privileged glimpses into the love and mutual support you all shared together! May this love and these wonderful memories comfort you all in these coming days and weeks! Special hugs to you, dear Tammy!

60 Sharon Korkes June 11, 2012

Tammy, sending my condolences to you and your family.

61 jennifer June 11, 2012

I am so sorry for your loss Tammy.
Your Dad will live in your heart forever.
xxx

62 Tami -- Teacher Goes Back to School June 11, 2012

tammy,

so sorry to hear of your family’s loss. love and hugs to you and your mom.

63 Laura June 11, 2012

Tammy,

My condolences to you and your family; you are in my thoughts and prayers. What a beautiful letter to your dad.

64 Christy June 11, 2012

Tammy,
such a beautiful letter, I am so sorry for your loss.

65 Annie June 11, 2012

Oh Tammy, so sorry for your loss, the pain and sadness of grief are so deep. Thinking of you and your family. Sending you much love. What a beautiful letter, i am in tears. Xo

66 Ann June 11, 2012

SO very sorry for your loss!

67 Suzanne June 11, 2012

Hugs to you and your family. I am so sorry.

68 Ryan N June 11, 2012

Thinking of you.

69 Andie June 11, 2012

Lots of love and hugs to you and yours. My thoughts are with you.

70 Lissy June 11, 2012

I held my dad’s hand while he slipped away from this earth. I know the feeling and 10 years later I still remember every moment. My thoughts and prayers to you and your family at this sad time. God Bless You!

71 KHF June 11, 2012

Wish when I could be there for my parents like you for yours.

72 Maria June 11, 2012

**hug**

73 Andrea June 11, 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. What a gift to be with him when he went!

74 Cindy June 11, 2012

Dear Tammy,
So sorry to hear of the loss of your Father. No matter how much we prepare, it still aches so when the people we love leave us. I’m sending you light and good energy.

75 Amy June 11, 2012

I’m so sorry for your loss, Tammy. I’m sure your stepfather knew how special he was to you and hope you know how special you were to him, a daughter he raised as his own. I am thankful for your family’s sake that you were in California and had the ability to visit so often during this difficult time. Prayers for you and your family.

76 Gene Jennings June 11, 2012

Tammy,
I am so sorry to hear that your dad has passed. I still have my dad but I have lost a mom and I know how difficult that has been for me. Please know that I am praying for you and your family as you deal with this loss. I am so glad you have precious memories to cling to during this time and the days ahead.

Love you and your big heart.

77 Teresa June 11, 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. My mother passed away last month and my father passed away last year. This is a rough time; my prayers are with you

78 subhorup June 11, 2012

my family joins me in sharing your grief. do take care, all of you.

79 Aime June 11, 2012

Tammy, I’m very sorry and sad for your loss!, my prayers are with you and your beautiful mom, God bless you and give you some peace in the middle of this sad loss, we love you!!!!

80 Shawn June 11, 2012

Oh Tammy, I am so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts.

81 Kathleen June 11, 2012

Tammy-
So sorry… it never feels like the right time, even though it was their time. Be good to yourself and remember. I lost both my parents 12 years ago, when I was not ready to loose them. Hugs and love to you. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Kathleen

82 Lan June 11, 2012

My sincerest condolences to you and your family. Thank you for sharing such a private journey with us. Thank you for showing us what it means to love, to be loved and that it’s all worth it.

83 s.e. June 12, 2012

I’m sorry to hear the news. I just lost my dad on may 25th.

84 Sue M June 12, 2012

Dear Tammy,
I am so sorry for your loss. You have been a wonderful, loving daughter to Mahlon and I’m sure he knew you were there to help him on his journey.

85 Annette June 12, 2012

hi Tammy.
im so sorry for your Loss.he is in the light now.
/Annette

86 Doug June 12, 2012

Tammy,

My heart breaks for you. I lost my father 10 years ago and rarely does a day go by that I don’t think of him.
So sorry…

87 Tod June 12, 2012

Thank you for sharing this journey with your readers so openly and honestly. All good thoughts to you and your family as you move through this difficult time…

88 K June 12, 2012

I’ve been reading for a while but I’ve never commented…

I’m truly sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family.

89 jennie June 12, 2012

Oh Tammy, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. Please know your words touch so many people you don’t even know. We are all here for you.

90 Laura Bradshaw June 12, 2012

Tammy,
You did this transition for your Dad (and Mom and yourself) so beautifully. There is no consolation at some moments of greiving and yet on your own deathbed, you will know you have “lived well”; caring for your father is one of the reasons why.

my heart hugs your heart,
Laura

91 DarrenKeith June 12, 2012

I’m so sorry for your lost. The one cool thing about this is at least you were close to your step-dad, that is a wonderful blessing. I’ve been married for 12 years and my step-children are not close to me but I knew that may be the case when marrying into a blended family.

Your step-dad knew you loved him and that’s what REALLY matters.

Hugs
DarrenKeith3 :-)

92 Teresa June 12, 2012

I am so sorry to hear this. I have been touched by happy, loving thoughts and memories you have with your dad. You were blessed, and I know you know this, to have a stepfather who was really your dad–a wonderful one. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom.

93 Tammy Strobel June 12, 2012

Thank you all so much. I’ve read each of your comments and they mean a lot to me and my family. Mahlon’s memorial service will be held on Saturday, June 16th at 1 p.m.

I’m incredibly sad that he is gone. But I’m also grateful that he is fee of pain and suffering.

Be well,
Tammy

94 leslie June 12, 2012

tammy,

i’m so sorry. i have no words better than what anyone else has said, but please know that i am thinking of you and your family.

leslie

95 Nika June 12, 2012

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time.

96 Catherine Chandler June 12, 2012

Tammy, I am so sorry for your loss. What a blessing that you were able to take care of your father and be there with him at the end. He will always be with you.

97 E June 12, 2012

Never commented, but followed your blog on and off for years…

Just wanted to send you warm thoughts.
You seem to have had a very wonderful relationship with your father.

So sorry people who care for each other so much have to part so soon.

98 Emily June 12, 2012

This is a perfect example of dying with dignity, surrounded by those most cherished. You were a wonderful daughter to Mahlon. Peace and blessings to you and your mom.

99 michelle June 12, 2012

I’m sure he has.

Our thoughts are with you and your family.

Take care.

100 Anatoliy June 12, 2012

It is a sad moment…
Tammy, know that you are loved and needed, here and now.

101 Natalie June 12, 2012

I’m so sorry to hear about this. I am glad that he did not have to suffer for too long, and that you and your mom got to be with him. He was a lucky man to have such caring and loving individuals in his life. My thoughts are with you and your family. This is a great tribute to his memory.

102 Flo June 12, 2012

I’m so sorry for your loss. Your words have me in tears as I can feel the love you shared. Your dad was blessed to have you with him. Much peace and light to you.

103 Carol June 12, 2012

So sorry for your loss. He is released from his illness and in a better place.
Hugs

104 Dave June 12, 2012

I’m so sorry Tammy, it’s been beautiful reading about the relationship you shared with your Dad. Sending love and best wishes to you and your family right now.

105 Vic June 12, 2012

Hey, Tammy. My mom died when I was 12, after a battle of only a few months with a brain tumor. While she was in the hospital, my sixth-grade teacher pulled me aside — she clearly knew more about my mother’s illness than I did at the time (my family was not very communicative, but that’s another story). She sat me down in her office and talked to me for maybe 20 minutes or so. I don’t remember a thing about it, other than one sentence, which I still hear in her voice in my head: “You must remember the twelve years you had with her.” Writing that out now, I realize it sounds like a commandment, and I guess it is. It is what we have left. There are no guarantees of how long we have with the ones we love, and in the end we somehow look for peace and fight with our hearts to say “that time was enough,” even though it never will be.

I hope, somehow, you will find a place in your heart to say, “that was enough” about your time with Mahlon, even though it never will be.

I’m not sure if I should have written you the above, or simply echoed Sam and Maria with *hug*. Sometimes using words just doesn’t make sense.

Love to you and your family.

106 Derek Randell June 12, 2012

So sorry to hear of your loss.

107 Jason June 12, 2012

I am so sorry for your loss, Tammy. Praying for all the best.

108 Terez June 12, 2012

Tammy, my deepest condolences to you and your family for your loss.

109 Rebecca B. A. R. June 12, 2012

I am so sorry for your and your mom’s loss of a loving dad and husband and friend. My prayers are with you and your mom.

110 Sabe Majeen June 12, 2012

Tammy,
I am sorry for your loss. Your letter is lovely and says the most important things. You and your family will be in
my thoughts and prayers this week as you adjust to this new phase of life.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I wish you all well.

Sabe

111 Susannah Conway June 13, 2012

Thinking of you and your mom, Tammy. I understand xxxx

112 Dawn A. June 13, 2012

Tammy, please accept my condolences for the loss of your Dad.

113 Terri June 13, 2012

dear Tammy…my thoughts are with you…your relationship with your dad is inspiring and lives on.

114 Charles June 13, 2012

So sorry for your loss Tammy. Praying that God will give you strength.

115 erin June 13, 2012

followed your AWESOME blog for a couple of years now, and what a great community you have supporting you in tough times! Heart goes out to you and family during this time, but hopefully it will also be a time of celebration of his life….

hugs and wet doggie kisses

116 michel June 13, 2012

Much love to you Tammy. From your blogging from the heart sisters. XOXO

117 Rebecca June 13, 2012

Tammy, I am so sorry to read of his passing. I lost my dad when I was just 20, just three short weeks after he was diagnosed with lung cancer. Being there for the last moments was excruciating and so important. Thirteen years later, I am so glad I was able to be with him. There will never be a time when making your family a priority will lead to regret.

{hugs}

118 mary June 13, 2012

my thoughts and prayers for you and your family. take care.

119 Kane June 13, 2012

Tammy

My deepest sympathy. And thank you for writing so beautifully about Mahlon’s last moments.

120 Ann June 13, 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. From a stranger who’s never commented here before, but reads your blog regularly, {{ a big, virtual hug. }}

121 Mistie June 13, 2012

Tammy,

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

122 shel June 13, 2012

Tammy,
I send my heartfelt condolences to you, your mom, Logan, and rest of your family and those who loved your dad. I hope to speak for all of your fond readers when I say we are humbled that you’ve shared this private, confusing, and painful period of your family’s experience with us. Please draw strength from our caring thoughts going out to you!
~Shel

123 Currie June 13, 2012

Love & Light to you, Tammy, your mom, and everyone whose Life was touched, changed, and blessed by your Dad. I have been touched, changed, and blessed by your generous Spirit as you have shared the Journey. I, too, am glad that he is free of pain and no longer suffering.

Loss is somehow comforting, I have found, BEcause in it I discover how very much I have loved and been loved.

124 Mary June 13, 2012

My condolences to you and your family. I appreciate you sharing during this difficult time. Will keep you and your family in my prayers.

125 Next Starfish June 13, 2012

So sorry Tammy.

Thoughts and prayers x

-STEVE-

126 Karen Lowe June 13, 2012

Dear Tammy,
I think the grief from the loss of a Dad comes from a special place in our heart, the same place where they put all of that love inside while they were still with us on this earth. How wonderful you were able to share some of the final hours with him. All the kisses he got during that time were surely enough to get him on to the next place and beyond. What a beautiful parting of the ways you had. Many blessings are wished to you and to your family during this time.

Karen

127 Anonymous June 13, 2012

Tammy,

I am a faithful reader and have followed your blog posts about your dear parents with much sympathy for the difficult situation that you have all faced together. Please accept my heartfelt condolences, and know that my thoughts are with you and your mother.

A

128 Helen June 13, 2012

So sorry for your loss. Your journey has been a learning experience for me. Thank you for sharing so generously of your life. Take care.

129 Phyllis June 13, 2012

Tammy,

So sorry to hear, I know he and all of you were suffering, but no matter what, it is never easy to lose someone you love. You guys take care of yourselves in this time, allow yourself to grieve, and keep his memories alive. Hope to see you guys soon. All my love…..

130 Nicole Marie June 13, 2012

I am so sorry for this loss to your heart. May peace by upon you and your family, the love you all are a part of shall never end.

131 Rebecca June 14, 2012

I’m a regular reader of your blog, but for whatever reason didn’t see this post until this morning. I’m so sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to you and your family.

132 Lindy June 14, 2012

I love reading your posts and was very sad to hear about the loss of your dad Mahlon. Thank you for sharing your journey and your beautiful letter. Sounds like you had a wonderful father but from all I have learned about you through reading your posts I am sure he also had a wonderful daughter. All the best and treasure your memories.

133 Mary Denny June 14, 2012

My heart hurts for you and your mom.

134 sigrid schirdewahn June 15, 2012

Hugs to you and yours. Sending you thoughts of comfort and love.

135 diana June 16, 2012

holding your hand across the virtual miles, lovely Tammy.
Two things I am very happy for:

You could be there with him when he transitioned out of this life. That’s a gift – a huge one – for both of you. He absorbed all of your love as he moved on, and it’s growing as we speak.

I am happy that he was able to experience the work (your little home, all that you do) you were meant to do on earth. I believe that when we do the work we are meant to do, we radiate love and contentment. He got to see that. How wonderful for him and also for you.

Please take time to rest and take care of yourself. Grief produces exhaustion, especially after the vigilance of tending to a long illness. Know that I am thinking of you.

136 Jim June 16, 2012

Condolences on your loss, Tammy. You’re a wonderful writer and I enjoy checking in with your site every couple of days but am now very sad to read about Mahlon’s passing. You’ll get strength in later years by knowing you were there comforting him at the time he ‘moved to the light’.

137 Pat June 16, 2012

Tammy, I’ll be thinking of you and your family today as you go through your dad’s memorial service. You and your family continue in my prayers. May God keep you in the hollow of his hand and bring you peace.

138 Judy June 18, 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. I read your posts regularly but missed this one until today. It is important to be with our loved ones when they take their last breath and I am glad you were with your father. It does not lessen the loss but helps us to deal with it and gives us some consolation. I know firsthand because my sisters and I were with my mother when she passed away. Take time to grieve and care for yourself and always know that the love we had for our loved ones never leaves us. There is never a day that goes by that I do not miss my mother but the love and how much she would want us to continure with our lives is what sustains me. Sending you a virtual hug across the miles and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your mother. I love your writing and how you are able to share your thoughts with us. Judy

139 Jenny June 19, 2012

Please accept my condolences on the loss of your father. *HUG*

140 Michelle June 19, 2012

Tammy,
Sending hugs and prayers.
Michelle

141 Tame June 20, 2012

I am so sorry to read about the loss of your father—I know you 2 were close just by reading your updates. I’m praying for you & your Mom at this difficult time & may blessings follow you & yours. . .

Tame

142 Carol June 20, 2012

Tammy, I just saw this and my heart goes out to you & your mom. I have been off-line for the past 12 days as my 84 year old mom was in the hospital for an emergency appendectomy + a mild heart attack. And my mother-in-law was in the hospital at the same time for a broken femur. And a good friend of mine lost her mother in the past 2 weeks as well. Sending peace & hugs to you…

143 Radka June 20, 2012

I’m so sorry, Tammy. Loosing my dad five years ago, I know what are you going through… My thoughts are with you and your family.

144 Martina June 20, 2012

I am so sorry, dear Tammy. My heart goes out to you and your family.

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