I don’t check my blog statistics often, but Logan does because he’s curious; curious about where my blog traffic is coming from and who is linking to RowdyKittens. Last night, he told me that my post on loneliness is one of the most visited articles on the blog. Interestingly, I’ve been thinking about this topic for the last few days because I’m worried about my mom.
Ever since my dad had a stroke she’s been feeling lonely and worried. Currently, my dad is still in a rehab center and my mom is all alone in a 2,000 square-foot house. She has her crazy puppy to keep her company, a part-time job, and friends, but I still worry. As she recently said on the phone, “It feels weird being alone in the house without Mahlon. It’s so empty.”
Ever since the stroke happened, I’ve been feeling worried and a little lonely too. I’m grateful that my dad is still here. However, he’s not the same. My dad is still disoriented and confused, so it’s going to be a while before I can carry on a conversation with him. The recovery process is going to be long and slow.
Rather than focus on my worries, I’ve been doing things like swimming, working, and spending time outside taking photos. Engaging in activities that I love make me feel less lonely.
If you’re looking for ways to overcome loneliness, check out these helpful tips from the folks on Google+:
“First & foremost- PETS! Otherwise, if I want human interaction with non-relatives, I blog. For me, it’s been the easiest way to meet like-minded people.” -Megyn S-H
“Be comfortable in your own skin. Meditate. See being alone as bliss, not suffering.” -Ando Perez
“Loneliness is a feeling, so I let the feeling be and do what it does. Sometimes it hangs around for a while, and sometimes not. Trying to push it away or figure it out feeds it.” -Henri Junttila
“I’m not sure you can overcome it, but you can be aware. Countless people have been confounded by this for as long as we can remember. The real issue is when you are with friends or a significant other and you still feel lonely or isolated. I think of it as a warning sign. This gives one opportunity to seek out help or make changes. It can also be a sign of depression, so treat it with the appropriate respect it deserves. Just trying to sweep it under the rug, can make it worse. Hope you’re not feeling lonely!” -Michael Simmons
“Boy is this ever timely for me! As a newly single person, the feeling of loneliness has recently reared its ugly head and has forced me to deal with a lot of things. This past weekend was particularly tough. What got me through it? Doing stuff. Keeping myself occupied. Most importantly, doing things that I ENJOY that I had been putting off for too long. Also, reaching out to loved ones. Something as simple as giving someone a call to just talk reminds you that you are never truly alone.” -Brenda S.
“I think the real trick is to figure out what triggered the loneliness. Often times what we think triggered the loneliness, is not the real cause. I know I often find that I am most lonely when I am with a friends and family. For me taking down time just for me is the only thing that lets me reset and find balance. As Ando Perez said, meditate or find your equivalent.” -David Sparkman
Micro-action: Make a list of activities that help you overcome loneliness. Keep the list in a journal or in a visible spot in your house. Return to your list if you start feeling lonely.